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28 May 2016

Again, they shocked me!

I wouldn't call it pleasant, it's more like an...hmm amusing lunch, with a couple of dutch colleagues yesterday, I did some thinking, afterwards, and decided, let's never do it again, I was bored, very much!

'People use too much phone...' 'I don't have computer home....' 'We're not interested in new technology....' here you go, they're not interested in knowing phone is no longer a phone today, you can't link to the world without internet, new technology is the motive to get creativity out .... They are not curious, for the world, for what's happening, and for anything outside of their 3 meals per day and maybe some shitty routine....

Human being creates more things because we are more curious than other animals, removing this factor, there isn't much differences left. When you're not curious, you don't live, but only exist, which is fairly sad!

'I don't blame them living in a fairly steady mindset, but I felt that was a conversation between middle age cave man vs. 21st century high tech' - I told my cousin on phone, who is working on developing another social media APP for china market at this moment.... 'Only America and China talk about new technology and accept them, Europe is dead!' - he commented

Yes, this piece of land is dead, I don't know how many times I have told myself so, a born generation Y from Asia, coming to this land where most of the population do not really get out of their milkman cave, that's like chicken and duck, we can't communicate, we talk, but never have a dialogue ....

This is harsh, and emotional, for a Saturday morning, regardless my best friends here in Europe actually are born Europeans, but there is indeed some differences, because I do realize just now I didn't become friends with anyone who do not have expat experiences in life, ever!

With all my respects, I wish, that kind of table discussion, call it sociable or not, please let's not have it ever happen again!

 

07 April 2016

Demand and supply - it's in everything!

Jane posted our pictures from junior high online, we started the discussion.... that's 1997, when we were still easily happy with 1 good hangout, 1 beautiful skirt.... life as a teen was probably the best, when the world was smaller, we thought we knew it all....

Today, Jane is the mom of 2, Bargitta moved to Canada, Nancy married a billionaire... Silan decided to go against Chinese culture and stay as double income no kids... and I... with 2 offers in hands last week, I took one and decided to extend my stay in Netherlands for a bit longer...

'Why we don't feel happy as easy anymore?' - Jane often comes up with million dollar questions

'Because we read too many fictions than should, watched too many movies than needed, meet too many intelligent people at younger age which isn't necessary a good thing...Because we're getting old' - some personality result shows that I'm 50/50 for male/female brain, that's scaring, and that probably gives me the space to be 'direct and blunt', I can always blame the other half of my brain

'I'm not getting old' - Nancy stays forever 25, well she does look fantastic, some ladies never get any sign of age, I know a lot of them, and Nancy is one

'No you're not, you're always in demand' - we all have some girlfriends who behave like 18, and talk like 12

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Talking about demand, here comes supply.... 

Recently I met up with an interesting company who is the king of demand/supply management in the market - Uber...their surge pricing model was out in front of everyone, then we were shocked, the economic professor didn't lie, everything is predictable. I'm a supporter of Uber model, nothing is really exclusive anymore in Internet world, they initiated shared economy, and I believe the world needs it; I'm a supporter of Uber also for their graceful attitude towards competition, especially in China we saw how the local firms can do...Uber is relax to it,let competitors come to play, and let game become even more interesting, it'll be boring if you're the only one in the market... Sounds easy right? Trust me, it isn't, I also met some firms who asked for exclusivity with no base in hands at all... the question itself already took away all the possible elegance...

02 March 2016

You need them, as much as a fish will need bicycle

4am - Shanghai local time, 9pm - Amsterdam local hour

'He said I'm always angry for nothing...he doesn't understand why...' -- She nearly cried out on the other side of the phone, probably another 'nuit blanche' over there, and she just can't manage her emotion, again

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For some reasons, my girlfriends like to be consulted by me when they face this type of problems, seriously consider changing my career path to relationship SME or something the like ... if that can make sufficient income to get retired at 45....

'You're not always angry with me, with me you're a lovely person...so that's his problem, not yours...he doesn't understand...hmm that also sounds like his problem, not yours...so what we're trying to resolve here, for him?'

Believe it or not, I consider myself the last person in the universe you want to go to if you need comfort...

'But did I do anything wrong? We were good before...' - Everyone in the universe should be sleeping at 4am, but she's telling a non-sense a story instead, I bet this 'he' is in deep sleep and probably having some nice dreams....

'Well, even you did something terribly wrong, it's still part of you, then it's not wrong. He just needs to choose to accept it or leave it, and when choosing to leave, he can make it more elegant than just making all sound your problems..'

'Every couple starts with something good, otherwise there's no starting....but not every one manage the sustainability, it's the same in business, just look around, even Yahoo has to sell their assets now....'

'I really like him, it's special....' - when a woman falls in love, she's stupid, beyond you can understand....

'But you will like a lot of other people as well, you did before, and will do again in the future....everyone is special in their own way...as long as you want to discover that....how long we have been in this story discussion? Months! They can be used on some beautiful things, when was last time you visited your parents?' ....

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Some while back, I was shocked by 'shy man' theory in the new fashion, maybe I can take a step further in that, they're not shy, they're poor in communication and relationship management, they will be as poor as such in their business life...if you ever think about going with a shy man, here is what I would say, you need them, as much as a fish will need bicycle....

 

23 January 2016

Through the eyes of the world

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Spending entire Saturday reading this book bought in ShangHai airport turned out to be one of the most beautiful things this week….

The writer is a famous media proprietor, journalist, and talk show hostess in China… her writing is ‘down to the earth’ by using the humblest language, to tell the most complicated relationship 'marriage', the most challenging thing for human being ' managing your emotion'…., and the most precious thing 'be kind and trust your surroundings'…

Yes, trust! When we start believing in everybody’s sincerity, life will become a lot more colorful… This comes across even clearer after my visits in China this time... 

When I was younger, I tended to believe all the achievement is coming from own efforts… today I realized any small steps of moving forward in my life is based on a platform built and supported by families, friends and people who come to me with good intention… from that regard, I feel I’m blessed and being VERY lucky...looking at the sky outside, it's clean, and sunny!

22 January 2016

My journey in China - Goodbye 2015 - NanJing TuLou

With Janie, we have been talking about this part of countryside for some time... This building type in FuJian province is famously named as earth dwelling by some foreign magazines, and we knew to get to those counties for a view, it's a long journey with certain risks on the road....

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We've followed a day group trip, after 3 hours bus route, they invited Janie and myself to follow a local guy to the destination....With little fear, we declined it, not only that the local doesn't look trust worthy, but also changing the plan and disclosing it after 3 hours journey made us scared... long story short, we managed... a little disturbing on the road, but that simply couldn't impact our mood to get eye opening over there, at all!

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My journey in China - Goodbye 2015 - NanJing

As the capital of 6 dynasties, I remember NanJing as a city which appears on every year's history book while I was still in China, primary school...

Every taxi driver is a story teller, probably because I look rather curious, or simply the drivers were in a good mood, almost every taxi I took in NanJing, the drivers were behaving like a tourist guide... they know every street's history, and amazingly, sometimes I got those trips for free, and they simply said it was a happy conversation and that's worth the trip!

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I came to have an interest in NanJing since the WWII history part, this city suffered 300,000 lives lost, and this piece of history is denied, till now, by Japanese government, and their history book...

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Choosing to spend my new year eve in NanJing was with a purpose to claim the ZhongShang mountain on first day of 2016, 1800 steps to the top of the hill...and visiting WWII museum on this date tells a complicated feeling I have for China's yesterday and today...whatever feeling it goes, there is no doubt that I love this country where my root comes from....

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My journey in China - Goodbye 2015 - SuZhou

Probably because I live in the Netherlands where people are constantly promoting the canals and bridges, SuZhou attracted me to go as a Chinese version of Amsterdam...Famous for its canals and silk, this is a city of canals but a reserved, timid,or in my dictionary - deeper version...

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Different from ShangHai's aggressive new rich fashion, SuZhou tells her 2500 years stories via the narrow streets, thousands of public/private gardens, the royal temples, and the harmony of living between the modern and classic China ....

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Coming from a very modern education background, it's a mystery to myself where do all my passion on traditional chinese culture, operas, poems and the architecture come from...Named as eastern Venice, Suzhou has her own charm at night... and I was lucky to be offered a local opera ticket that night..

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10 October 2015

Everyone gets a story to tell

Finished training today, on the way back...I wasn't sure what attracted me to this part of the neighborhood, a cemetery

There's always a peaceful feeling when you get closed to cemetery, people are sleeping, quietly, I was reading what's written there, one old man stopped in front of me, he looks like 80+, probably there isn't many asian faces he saw here, he started explaining his wife slept here as well, remembers some details of his wife, 'she has a wound on head... her stomach wasn't good, he has a candle with him, and showed it to me, ' I also brought flowers'... For some reason, I wish I could spend some hours to listen to his story, their story...

When I signed CSI contract, I was joking to get retired at 40 years old with ambitions with CSI, and they asked me what you want to do after 40 then... write books, taking pictures, continue to learn painting, listen to stories... that's a luxury problem, that I would love to resolve 

12 July 2015

But all, except their sun, is set...

Eternal summer gilds them yet, but all, except their sun, is set - Byron

If this british man will wake up again today, he might share some tears ' but all, except their sun, is set...'

It's rather interesting to talk about Greece with German in this particular period, Germans have a special sense of humor, sometimes it conflicts with their structured nature, and make the stimulation interesting...It's probably mean to make a joke, but if now they leave Germany and move to Greece, 10 years later, I'm sure Greece will be one of they key European power as well, maybe they can rotate to help out...

I don't have a lot of positive or negative impression about Greek or Greece, but 1 thing left me a strong impression, that was a conversation with a Greek colleague recently, over the event that our another colleague received multiple job offers, he said "if he's a native speaker, then even he's stupid he will sound smart...' I didn't comment but smile, and filtered this person out from real friend zone immediately... his comment is an indicator of his inner unbalanced self-esteem... no one is perfect, I do know, but isn't that a minor of today's Greece? 

 

 

 

21 June 2015

2046 - It's seductive yes, as a movie...

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Wong Kar Wai is seductive, 2046 was shot in 2004, I only remember the scenes are seductive, the lines/no lines are sexy, the color was well used, the clothes (okay, I love all the clothes chosen there), the film is distant, roles are all detached but connected, and being detached is elegant, in a lot of cases ...                                                        

8am CET, Jane called and told me it's Wong Kar Wai films review festival in my city, I found this movie back, on a rainy Sunday, it's probably not a good start of the day

The entire story is just telling ho7.jpgw to forget about a woman, the journey took him a half life time to meet more women, fall in/out of love, hurt/get hurt, looking for the signs on every women to enhance his memories about her rather than forgetting her... love has a lot of symbols, if you want, you can always link 1 to another, you can always create an illusion to fall in love with your own love imagination, if you want, you can always create some pain to feel you're alive, people do it always anyway...

Romance must be dead when they meet my logic - 'why do they not realize they don't really remember that person, they just remember how they felt when they told themselves to remember that person...' 'I'm going to talk to Nancy now...' - She can't buy in my comment, as a literature major, this mommy of a 3 years old still has deadly serious romantic dreams...

Back to the movie, 11 years later, I still feel the production is very arty, classic, beautiful and full of seduction, but at the end, it's a movie, isn't it? ...

 

 

18 June 2015

It's good to be classic, but not old fashioned ...

It’s a message I got when I approached my end working hour today, from a friend in Zurich…how to be successful to hit on girls in bars …. Well he actually really started by sharing an online article ‘12 ways to make you look smart in work emails’, probably had a bad day at work … most of the tricks are so old fashioned there, I have seen them every day in my work, it’s like expired tin food, boring, to death…

‘So you don’t like the trick used to hit on you?’

‘Well, it’s good to be classic, but being old fashioned is a different story.  When you know exactly what’s going on in the numerical game for example, it’s no longer a fun game, but if you then convert that into Sudoku, that becomes classic, then excitement can be reproduced… if you follow … ‘

… Speechless, I guess my brain is structured in a particular way, and often bring the conversation out of planned route… But I would expect him to come back with something out of box though, some creativity, rather than 'that's an interesting concept...'

While waiting, a new message from Shang Hai: when you are going to book your airline tickets???  --- shouldn’t Shang Hai be sleeping by this hour?  

20 May 2015

Stand by the most prominent road sign and let the person find you

'Are you seriously flying 15 hours to Canada just to spend 2 days with him? you know him for 1 week only...."- By asking that, I seemed forgot already I did 26 hours return flight for 24 hours stay, and that was just 2012, and this girl sent me to airport and gave me a good hug...

If you can still do some crazy things for emotion, your mind is still young for that piece of life...

'If it works, bring him back to HK, if it doesn't, enjoy the time you will spend there, a good accompany for the local visit, there's no loss in this trip, if you want to' - I seriously meant it, and hope for her

1 month ago in Malaysia, this same girl was having the overnight chat and wishing to meet the right person while I told her just relax, stand by the most prominent road sign and let the person find you, then fell asleep on sofa, and she left me a note saying I'm completely heartless...

Who knows what's happening tomorrow? By knowing the uncertainty, life becomes a bit more exciting after my today's 9-5...

 

 

 

If you want to end the conversation quicker, give compliments...

It's an interesting discussion, I like people who can catch my brain nerve, and give me something new, make me think, even just for some minutes

He said, I figured out the best way to avoid someone is giving compliments, no conversation can last longer than 3 minutes by saying good things only...

She said, people like 'round' personality, but they do not know ball is one of the objects with least possibilities to be attached anywhere, it rolls among the crowd, and land nowhere till hitting a wall...

I can only laugh, we're Y-generation Chinese, and you can say we're spoiled, but you can never deny we're wonderful...

 

19 April 2015

人生嘛,那样的心跳也许对健康并不太好

我都还没有回过神来,他已经来了邮件,下周要参加影展了,这是第二件作品了吧

他说阿富汗的安全很是问题,他说他们的创作团队已经有人被炸伤了,我有一封邮件,酝酿了,写好了,也删掉了

很想问是不是有受伤,很想说下周的影展要加油,很想说不管如何,我真的很相信他可以做得很好,我很少真正关心很多人很多事,但一旦关心了,这个合同基本是要走一辈子

他一定是安全的,不是说了还要去参展了吗,他一定是会加油的,说和不说在这个时候已经没有太多差别,他也许应该可以做得很好,世俗一点说,以金钱衡量是否成功,那他的成功很玄,超俗一点说,人生的成败和金钱真的关系不大,那他早已经成功了,做着自己喜欢的事情,有在意和不在意的人支持,夫复何求

我又问了自己一次,如果那一年我可以选择我会真的做一些不一样的决定,坚持一些不一样的东西,是否今天我们会不同?后来想想,人生嘛,我怎么可能在那个年龄预见今天的自己,人生嘛,明明没有别人那么勇敢,如何敢要求那么多回报,人生嘛,人生嘛,很多人注定是过客,但是变成了记忆中的常客,这样不是也挺好, 人生嘛,有一个让你刻骨铭心的人和事已经幸运了

当初第一次见面我的心跳走到了200下,忍不住打给朋友声音都是颤抖的,人生嘛,那样的心跳也许对健康并不太好

08 December 2014

Beware of monotony, that's the mother of all deadly sins...

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Women with chunky heels is... like going to steakhouse for seafood... I love seafood, as well as shoes, hence I do proper heels and proper flat

Talking about femininity with a French man is always a pleasant thing to do - "One of the things that gets me nervous here is women with their chunky heels and splay feet, a sign of being in monotony for long..." I didn't make it out of blue, one female on the tram nearly stepped on my Ferragamo with her cowboy boots...I was scared, no kidding 

"You're so right, that's why I only stay in Paris ..." - see, good thing about a gay friend is you're never wrong in their eyes...blindly supportive, you need that for rainy weekends...

"I'm so much going to take this Gianvito Rossi home from Belgium next week...regardless I'm much more in a boyish mood for 2015, but after this tram 'event', my feet cries for urgent femininity..."

Reason that women's mind is cleaner is they're changed more often...

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Back to monotony...'Beware of monotony, that's the mother of all deadly sins' - said a century ago...

 

 

23 November 2014

I didn't lose my heart in Heidelberg...

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They say this is the place where Goethe lost his heart - I think Goethe easily lost his heart, any place any time... A man repeatly having affairs by abusing 'love' name ...

They say Mark Twain found it the most beautiful place in the world - I think it's more important how I find it, a cute town with a history, where people living there don't care much about the past anymore. Twain probably didn't know that 100 years back...

They say it's a romantic town - I think romance is from daily life, how much you can be yourself, and how interesting the conversation can be at breakfast, lunch and diner ...any drama is considered as 'attention seeking' and most of the time is boring, I'm a drama queen myself, I know that game ...

 

18 November 2014

Silkroad with Jimmy Choo on?

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15 years ago, I wanted to travel from China east coast to Tibet...repeat the silkroad path if I can

10 years ago, after travelling in 34 countries, I wanted to move to central asia, although the reason was stupid if I look back today, but the wish wasn't

5 years ago, I realized success and money were key measurements in every 20s' life, and I chose to go with the main trend, banking, consulting, and all those superfacial things make you self-confident, you might not need it forever, but I stronly believe everybody needs it for a period

This year, I realize when you can buy a lot of things, they don't mean much to your life anymore...

Diner table last night, I mentioned, maybe taking 2 months off, go from east coast to Tibet, passing central China, feel the changes in culture, this country has a lot to offer when it comes to diversity, rich to poor, religions, history... Gee, this was my wish 15 years back, so life is a circle...dream as well, only difference is today I have this dream with Jimmy Choo on ...

 

 

16 November 2014

Can Aung San Suu Kyi change Myanmar?

I find the Myanmar exhibition has not much more than the budda to see, if a country gets inspired, driven and controlled by a religion, I usually won't bet my money on It...  Can Aung San Suu Kyi rebuild inner security in mind, and turn the country around after nearly 30 years ??? It certainly isn't something gonna be resolved by talking about democracy ....

 

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15 November 2014

Why do I want to have sunglasses on, when it's night and indoor...

current society, Everybody can do drama,easily...

For a momental peaceful mind, you sometimes needs to not only take off your lenses, but as well put on sunglasses....

 

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Best food reminds you the happy past

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This is my favorite dish when I'm in stuttgart

The best food usually has not much to do with the price, but has a lot to do with what kind of feeling that brings you, this one to me, my student life in Paris - first time tried vietnamese food... 

 

 

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